Pretty much everyone who has ever been married or found themselves in a hard marriage or on the other side of divorce - in Christian culture - has heard someone tell them that “God hates divorce”, pulling from Malachi 2:16 (NLT) that says, “’For I hate divorce,’ says the Lord, the God of Israel.” These words are typically used as a tool to keep someone from divorcing, or sadly, to point out why someone’s life is so difficult post-divorce, as in, 'Well, what did you expect? God hates divorce…' But there's more to that verse than meets the eye.
Continue readingQuestion: How do you stop obsessing about what your ex-husband is doing with his life? How do you detach from someone that you were literally linked to as "one flesh" for years and years? The same way you spit out the elephant you’ve been eating for years…one bite at a time. Okay, let’s get something straight. Becoming un-one is super hard, super sad, and will take a super long time, there’s just no getting around it.
Continue readingThere is a myth floating around in the world that time heals all wounds. That is absolute BS. Nope, it does not. The formula that works – the not so sexy not super quick formula - goes like this: Time plus intentional introspection plus GOD = healing & redemption
Continue readingSex is for marriage if you claim to be a follower of Christ (and it doesn't matter your age or if you've been married before).
Continue readingDifficult Christian marriages is one of the Church’s darkest, dirtiest secrets. I was not alone. We are everywhere. We are sitting in the pews. We are sitting in Bible studies. We are sitting in the front row as our husbands – the pastors – preach about biblical marriage to the congregation while we die inside.
Continue readingIt is not your responsibility to singlehandedly re-trust someone who has broken your trust (despite what you may have been told).
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