Tired of Doing the Same Thing Over & Over, Hoping for Different Results?
You didn’t wake up this morning and think, “Today is the day I need to hire a life coach (or relationship coach or spiritual coach or hope coach).” But I would put money down that you woke up this morning, you sweet woman, and within about thirty seconds, your top...
Staying Sane in a Difficult Marriage
To say it can be difficult to keep walking the Christian walk in the middle of all the adversity of living in a difficult marriage is an understatement. To say it can be harrowing to stay sane while living in crazy town is also putting it lightly. For some of us, it...
I Think My Husband Abuses Me. Now What?
Let’s say your husband hits you. Or pushes you. Or slaps you. Or let’s say he has never hit you. But he has forced you – forced you – to have sex when you said no. Or let’s say he hasn’t hit you and he hasn’t forced you to have sex. Let’s say it’s not that obvious....
How I Landed in a 12-Step Group
I was doubled over on my counselor’s couch, my head in my hands, on the verge of hyperventilating. I had just finished sharing yet another incident that had left me feeling undone in one of my relationships, when my counselor suggested, “I really think you might want...
What is it Really Like to be Coached?
I have had the privilege to work with over 100 women one-on-one over the past few years. And I thought it would be helpful to give you a glimpse behind-the-scenes of what the coaching process looks and feels like, from the perspective of one of my clients. It starts...
Feeling Heard Changes Everything
I had known this woman for a few years simply as the mother of one of my best friends. I knew a bit of her hard story, but only as it pertained to her daughter (my friend). Then my world started falling apart, one huge piece at a time. I was lost. The ways I had...
Poster Girl for Divorce
I promised myself as a little girl that I would never get divorced. I promised myself as a teenager that I would never get divorced. I promised myself on my wedding day -- before God and my new husband and our families and friends -- that I would never get divorced....
Why Am I So Needy?
I seem to have a pattern with men (and by pattern I mean that this has happened maybe two or three times in my life). Ready? What they offer me (in my head) isn’t enough. I don’t say this like a diva who thinks she deserves the sun and the moon and stars, because I...
When You Feel No Comfort from God
Several years ago I found myself in the middle of the worst (up to that point) and longest crisis of my life. Something swept into my sweet little life and set up camp for 441 days (but who’s counting). And in the middle of all that, two of my best friends moved...
When You Don’t Feel Free
While going through Freeway, I heard Mike Foster tell the story of when, as a little boy, he used to collect caterpillars – as many of us did when we were children – and would place them in a jar and watch them weave a cocoon around themselves and then delight in...