Tired of Doing the Same Thing Over & Over, Hoping for Different Results?
You didn’t wake up this morning and think, “Today is the day I need to hire a life coach (or relationship coach or spiritual coach or hope coach).” But I would put money down that you woke up this morning, you sweet woman, and within about thirty seconds, your top...
The Committee in My Head
Towards the end of my difficult marriage, I had a committee. A literal committee of people were assembled and assigned (two counselors, a mediator, a mentor couple, a mentor woman, a campus pastor, and an elder couple) to come alongside us and try to keep us together....
What I’d Say to the Newly Separated Woman in Her Pain & Anger
Today I’m going to share what I’d say to a newly separated woman in her pain & anger. Over the past decade plus, I have sat across from (or listened to via the phone or Zoom) countless women whose marriages were over. Every woman is different. Every marriage is...
Fresh Ideas for Becoming Wholehearted
I thought I would share with you all the things that I do to take care of myself spiritually/physically/emotionally/mentally/relationally and I’m breaking it down into annually/monthly/weekly/daily. (If you'd rather hear me talk it all through, you can watch here or...
Different Kinds of Strength
{A post from when I was walking through my separation and divorce} I’ve been told lately that how I have handled my marriage and how I am handling the dissolution of my marriage show a lack of strength. I’ve been told that I should be kicking butt. I’ve been told...
No More Lies
I wrote the following post towards the end of my first marriage. Part of me doesn't even recognize let alone remember that version of me and the amount of pain I was living in. But when we are in pain, and when things don't seem to be getting better for a long time,...
Walled-Up, Icy Heart
Boyfriend #1: kinda sorta cheated on me Boyfriend #2: broke our engagement Husband #1: addiction and abuse stuff First man after marriage that I kinda sorta dated: one day after meeting me, after six months of long distance, ended things Random guy I had one date...
I Want to Be Healed. NOW.
Back when my first marriage was hanging by a thread, had someone said to me, We need you to agree to the following: eight adults will know every detail of your life and marriage; you will have to meet with two counselors, two mentors and a mediator weekly, along with...
A Peptalk for When You’re Discouraged
Today I’m going to be giving a peptalk to every one of you whose life isn’t going the way you want it to. First of all, I’m so sorry. Whatever is not working in your life right now, I’m just so sorry about it and if I could fix it for you, whoever you are and whatever...
Is It Time to Get Help?
When I was in seventh grade, I was imagining things. I was imagining that my mom was unsafe when I was at school, so I would pretend to be sick to stay home and take care of her. And when I was home alone, I would imagine that someone else was in our apartment with...
