Tired of Doing the Same Thing Over & Over, Hoping for Different Results?
You didn’t wake up this morning and think, “Today is the day I need to hire a life coach (or relationship coach or spiritual coach or hope coach).” But I would put money down that you woke up this morning, you sweet woman, and within about thirty seconds, your top...
When You Feel Without Options, You’re Usually Not
When we find ourselves in a situation that is painful, frustrating, confusing, maddening or sad, we can either pretend it's not as bad as it is or we can keep doing what we're doing hoping something changes on its own. That is what most of us do, and it's...
3 Practical Ways to Handle Worry
How much of our time and energy do we as women lose to worrying and anxiety? We’ve got huge things on our minds like how is our marriage really doing, am I a good enough mom, will my kids turn out okay, what if it’s cancer, should I change jobs, should I move, will I...
Is It Time to Get Help?
When I was in seventh grade, I was imagining things. I was imagining that my mom was unsafe when I was at school, so I would pretend to be sick to stay home and take care of her. And when I was home alone, I would imagine that someone else was in our apartment with...
I’m Scared to Get Married Again
{originally written in March of 2015, two months before I remarried} Let me say this upfront: I like Tall-Shadow. I love Tall-Shadow. I’m in love with Tall-Shadow. And I believe to my core that he likes, loves and is in love with me right back. I mean, c’mon… Let me...
Stop Obsessing About Your Ex
Question: How do you stop obsessing about what your ex-husband is doing with his life? How do you detach from someone that you were literally linked to as “one flesh” for years and years? The same way you spit out the elephant you’ve been eating for years…one bite at...
God Hates Divorce? That’s Only Part of the Story
Pretty much everyone who has ever been married or found themselves in a hard marriage or on the other side of divorce - in Christian culture - has heard someone tell them that “God hates divorce”, pulling from Malachi 2:16 (NLT) that says, “’For I hate divorce,’ says...
Sex & the Divorced Christian Woman
When I wrote about sex and the single Christian girl, I cringed the entire time I wrote it. But I look back now and have to laugh a little bit because (and I admitted this then) it’s super easy to talk about something when it’s only a theory. Because I wrote it when I...
Why Can’t I Be Myself in My Marriage?
This question does nothing less than break my heart and bring back horrible memories. You’re asking why, which I’ll try to touch on, but I think you’re also asking if you can do anything to change your situation as well. First, why can’t you just be who you are in...
Words Matter
When I was in my 20s and 30s, I probably said about 75% of what I was thinking and kept 25% to myself. I was involved in so many conflicts at my church of 19 years that I jokingly said I should get a plaque for most Matthew 18s. I’m not sure why I felt I could say...