I have been in a funk, and I'd maybe even go so far as to say a mini-depression for several months. I claimed it was a circumstantial sad season but then I became a bit more honest with myself and though - yes - a couple bad/hard things happened at once, I was really struggling deep down with how those things played out. But I was pressing through, doing all the things I always do when I can't stop being sad, but found myself stuck, feeling blah in my entire life.
But then, one day, I reluctantly began therapy with a new therapist. And in six sessions - and this has never happened to me before - she kinda blew my mind and turned my life around. At least, on the inside. Which happens to be where I live most of my life, truth be told.
If you haven't listened to my podcast episode about this, it's worth a listen if I can say so myself. But basically, the gist is, the Spirit and me and this new therapist helped me focus on reframing my thoughts (for instance, instead of "I don't want to go to this thing", I started telling myself, "it's only two hours and it's early in the season and I'll get to see so-and-so!"), and tapping, which is calming my anxiety way down, and Internal Family Systems, (see Boundaries for Your Soul), which is helping me connect with the parts of myself that I've been neglecting and shaming and pushing down and denying.
I feel like I'm being set free. All within six weeks (and counting). And out of the blue (at least to me, not to the LORD). And just as I was settling in to 'I guess this is it for me...ho-hum...'.
So, though of course I am resoundingly recommending ALL of these things to you, I guess what I'm more trying to say is that if I can change, you can change. If I can get unstuck, you can get unstuck. If I can heal more, you can heal more.
But alas, it's not going to be by doing the same things you've been doing. I tried A BUNCH OF NEW THINGS. I sort of jumped off an emotional cliff. And if you need to change...if you want to change...you're going to have to jump too.
But I believe you can. I know you can. God is with you and wants change and growth and peace and unstuck-ness and healing for you too.
So, what's not working in your life? Of those things, what can YOU actually make some changes about? And, girl, what are you waiting for??
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