by Elisabeth | Sep 21, 2023 | divorce, emotions, healing, heart, pain
{originally written after my first post-divorce heartbreak, before I met my now-husband} I have said more times than I can count that this man who I fell in love with is a good man. And he is. And yet, there is this one little piece that, if given too much weight, has...
by Elisabeth | Aug 17, 2023 | difficult marriage, divorce, faith, pain, wholeness
Question: “I find myself wishing for something else to take away the pain even when I know only God can. What can we do to comfort ourselves when the pain {of being in a difficult marriage, of separating/divorcing} is so great?” During my separation, I texted a...
by Elisabeth | Jul 27, 2023 | emotions, healing, pain, wholeness
Question: “My anger is reasonable under the circumstances, but since he doesn’t care if I’m angry, it eats at me, and I feel confused. When is it ok to be angry?” Let’s start with this reminder: every emotion is a gift from God. The sweet emotions like...
by Elisabeth | Jun 29, 2023 | divorce, faith, friendship, healing, heart, pain
In the week leading up to my divorce day {author’s note: July 2012}, I felt pretty alone. Friends were checking in and such so I don’t mean on a human level. I mean on a God level. I felt like he wasn’t really there. I had asked the Spirit for some kind of...
by Elisabeth | Jun 22, 2023 | abuse, divorce, emotions, pain
Question: “My soon-to-be ex-husband keeps hurting me emotionally. How should I respond?” My answer from my just-divorced years: This weekend was a tough one. Someone did three things that hurt me. It involved a breaking of an agreement. It involved my children. And...
by Elisabeth | Jun 8, 2023 | emotions, faith, pain
[post written during the very early divorce years] I received an email yesterday that made me sick to my stomach. (Why do I insist upon checking email while waiting to pick up my son from basketball practice? Nothing good can come from that.) This email surprised and...