Relational Peace

I dreamt that I ran into Beth Moore and she suggested we have a slumber party. Obviously. And as we were lounging around in our pink matching jammies (because why not?), she asked me, “If you could have anything in the world right now, what would it be?” My automatic,...

Words Matter

When I was in my 20s and 30s, I probably said about 75% of what I was thinking and kept 25% to myself. I was involved in so many conflicts at my church of 19 years that I jokingly said I should get a plaque for most Matthew 18s. I’m not sure why I felt I could say...

Tips from a Recovering Over-sharer

I used to tell everyone everything about my first marriage. Well, no, that’s not true. I told my parents next to nothing. I told my close friends random, different tidbits. I told strangers WAY TOO MUCH. And the more I work with women, the more I realize that this is...

Why Am I So Comfortable with Pain?

Let’s talk about pain. Think about a time when you’ve had a toothache. It’s the worst, right? I’ve even heard it said that “your toothache is the worst pain in the world” because it’s all you can think about and, frankly, because it’s yours. Physical pain sets...

The Aftereffects of Emotional Abuse

The aftereffects of living under abuse are long and complicated. It’s a bit like a brain tumor that has wrapped itself around the brainstem and all throughout your skull. There’s not just one easy way to undo all that’s been done. There’s no off switch. One of my...