Getting through the Holidays

Are you in a hard marriage? Are you separated? Are you divorced? Are you a single mom? Are you dreading holiday gatherings? Are you dreading not having plans for Thanksgiving or Christmas Eve or Christmas Day or New Year’s Eve? Are you dreading not being able to do...

Pain is Pain, No Matter the Year

During my first marriage, I kept journals. Lots and lots of journals.  Some would say it was a record of wrongs, something we as Christ-followers are called not to do as an act of love.  But I knew better. I knew what my journal meant to me. It was my lifeline. It...

I Think My Husband Abuses Me. Now What?

Let’s say your husband hits you. Or pushes you. Or slaps you. Or let’s say he has never hit you. But he has forced you – forced you – to have sex when you said no. Or let’s say he hasn’t hit you and he hasn’t forced you to have sex. Let’s say it’s not that obvious....

The Role of Women in Marriage

I have never written on this topic before and I’m pretty sure I know why. Because a, no one has asked me to (ha!), and b, it’s a hot-button issue (but oh well). For some reason though, I have some thoughts these days and I’m feeling weirdly fired up about it....

My Top 10 Tips for a Strong Marriage

Caveat: though all of these things could help in marriages with adultery, abuse and addiction, those kinds of marriages are a different breed and could also benefit from a different list; the marriages I have in mind for this specific list are those that are mostly...