by Elisabeth | Aug 13, 2021 | abuse, Church, divorce
Pretty much everyone who has ever been married or found themselves in a hard marriage or on the other side of divorce – in Christian culture – has heard someone tell them that “God hates divorce”, pulling from Malachi 2:16 (NLT) that says, “’For I hate...
by Elisabeth | Jul 2, 2021 | abuse, Church, difficult marriage
When I was in trying-to-save-my-marriage mode for that fifteen or so year stretch, I asked for a lot of help and advice and read a lot of books and prayed a lot of prayers and I put several things in place in an attempt to turn things around. Things like: *I was...
by Elisabeth | May 5, 2020 | Church, difficult marriage, divorce, friendship, pain, single moms
This post is for anyone who has a friend (or small group member or congregant or neighbor or family member) who is living in a difficult Christian marriage, or who is going through a divorce, or who is a single mom. You want to help her. You want to support her. But...
by Elisabeth | Oct 15, 2019 | Church, friendship, pain, redemption
I spoke at a retreat a ways back and though I touched on quite a few points in the two talks I gave, one of the topics I broached was one of my sin stories. I think I have this thing with just telling complete strangers all the details of my life and then letting...
by Elisabeth | May 5, 2018 | abuse, Church
I set out to write a post to/about this pastor who has done such damage to women, to Christians, to the holiness of marriage, to clergy. But then I realized I don’t think I have anything new to say that I haven’t already said. I have been ringing this bell for about...
by Elisabeth | Mar 15, 2017 | Church, emotions, faith, healing, pain, redemption, wholeness
For nineteen years, I worshipped and served with one church community that I loved. I’ve shared here why I felt compelled to leave, despite how that place and those people had become my second home, my second family. And then I went and found a new church home, what I...
