I Think My Husband Abuses Me. Now What?

Let’s say your husband hits you. Or pushes you. Or slaps you. Or let’s say he has never hit you. But he has forced you – forced you – to have sex when you said no. Or let’s say he hasn’t hit you and he hasn’t forced you to have sex. Let’s say it’s not that obvious....

Toxic People

tox·ic /ˈtäksik/ poisonous, venomous, dangerous, destructive, harmful, unsafe, injurious tox·ic person someone who is poisonous, venomous, dangerous, destructive, harmful, unsafe, injurious I think that when we think of a toxic person, we tend to think of someone who...

The Aftereffects of Emotional Abuse

The aftereffects of living under abuse are long and complicated. It’s a bit like a brain tumor that has wrapped itself around the brainstem and all throughout your skull. There’s not just one easy way to undo all that’s been done. There’s no off switch. One of my...

Hurt People Hurt People

Some people have hurt me in my life. Some long ago. Some recent. Some repeated. Some just once. Here’s what I recently wrote in my journal: Holy Spirit, please soften my heart towards — and — and —. I am carrying anger, sadness and fear towards each...