Share that Thing
I spoke at a retreat a ways back and though I touched on quite a few points in the two talks I gave, one of the topics I broached was one of my sin stories. I think I have this thing with just telling complete strangers all the details of my life and then letting...
Decision-Making 101
Every day we are faced with big and little decisions. Some are super easy and take zero thought. Some, however, take the wisdom of God because they are weighty and life-altering. When I’m up against something huge, I try one or all of these tips to make sure I’m...
More Power Than We Know
I talk a lot about relational tools and emotional sanity and healing and hope. Knowing that a woman is hurting and that there is something she can do about it to make her circumstances steadier or her heart more peaceful by turning to God is what keeps me going day in...
In Your Hard Marriage: to the Younger Me from the Older Me
I’m picturing my 20something somewhat-newly-married self coming to me, the 50something married-divorced-remarried been-around-the-block self, and saying, “My marriage is hard. Harder than I think it should be. I cry almost every day. I’m so confused. I don’t think...
Let’s Talk Perimenopause (because why the heck not?!)
ORIGINALLY WRITTEN in 2019 Warning: this post will be a tad graphic, snarky and disorganized - like my thoughts these days. Maybe just imagine me pacing back and forth and maniacally yelling this whole thing at you. Also, let’s start with this: a definition of...
The One Thing I Didn’t Do the First Time Around that I Do Now that has Transformed Me as a Wife (and you can do it too)
I get asked all the time what is different about my second marriage that makes it work? And there are many answers for that. But today I'm going to focus on what I personally am doing differently. During my first marriage, I was controlling. I was a nag. I was...
Tired of Doing the Same Thing Over & Over, Hoping for Different Results?
You didn’t wake up this morning and think, “Today is the day I need to hire a life coach (or relationship coach or spiritual coach or hope coach).” But I would put money down that you woke up this morning, you sweet woman, and within about thirty seconds, your top...
Are You Happy?
Two people in my life ask me this question: are you happy? One is my Husband. And when he asks this, he is asking in essence if I’m happy with our life together and if he makes me happy, the wanting-to-make-me-happy man that he is. The other is my Dad. And when he...
The Committee in My Head
Towards the end of my difficult marriage, I had a committee. A literal committee of people were assembled and assigned (two counselors, a mediator, a mentor couple, a mentor woman, a campus pastor, and an elder couple) to come alongside us and try to keep us together....
