Are You Happy?
Two people in my life ask me this question: are you happy? One is my Husband. And when he asks this, he is asking in essence if I’m happy with our life together and if he makes me happy, the wanting-to-make-me-happy man that he is. The other is my Dad. And when he...
What (I Think) Jesus Wants Me to Do Moving Forward
The question posed from my heart to the LORD’s: what do you want me to do with the rest of my life? Perhaps more specifically, is it time to end my ministry? I decided to take some time off from my work to take a look at my current malaise, weariness and...
The (REAL) Purpose of Marriage
I recently heard this quote, “We all come into the world looking for someone who is looking for us.” That utterly resonated with me. YES, I thought. My entire life has been one big long looking for that person looking for me. But then I read something that did more...
Rebuilding Trust
Question: How do I forgive my spouse, and what is the difference between forgiving him and trusting him? This is about the weightiest of all topics, isn’t it? Let me start by saying that I believe we are all called to forgive everyone for what they’ve done to us, but...
How Do I Soften My Hard Heart?
During my difficult marriage, I had a hard heart. My heart was hard and cold and wounded and tired and done. Not hard to God. Not cold toward my family or friends. But closed off to the one I once loved most. During my second-to-last Lenten season of my first...
Staying Sane in a Difficult Marriage
To say it can be difficult to keep walking the Christian walk in the middle of all the adversity of living in a difficult marriage is an understatement. To say it can be harrowing to stay sane while living in crazy town is also putting it lightly. For some of us, it...
I Think My Husband Abuses Me. Now What?
Let’s say your husband hits you. Or pushes you. Or slaps you. Or let’s say he has never hit you. But he has forced you – forced you – to have sex when you said no. Or let’s say he hasn’t hit you and he hasn’t forced you to have sex. Let’s say it’s not that obvious....
How I Landed in a 12-Step Group
I was doubled over on my counselor’s couch, my head in my hands, on the verge of hyperventilating. I had just finished sharing yet another incident that had left me feeling undone in one of my relationships, when my counselor suggested, “I really think you might want...
What is it Really Like to be Coached?
I have had the privilege to work with over 100 women one-on-one over the past few years. And I thought it would be helpful to give you a glimpse behind-the-scenes of what the coaching process looks and feels like, from the perspective of one of my clients. It starts...