This is a continuation of a new series every Friday where I will be highlighting the growth and healing of one of my readers, a new reader each week. I sent out the call for stories that answered either ‘what is one lesson God has taught you?’ or ‘what is one way God has healed you?’ through their hard marriages, their separations, their divorces, their single mothering seasons, their forays into dating post-divorce, or even their remarriages.  These, my sweet ones, are their brave and vulnerable stories. Take heart…you are not alone.


I remember the thought I had when I became a single mom.

“My family is broken.”


My family no longer looked how I always imagined it would. Mom, dad, children.
Smiling faces, laughs, and more love then I can imagine.

In those first few months of my separation and divorce all I could see was absence.

The absence of two loving parents in the home. The absence of income. The absence of myself when my children went to their dad’s house.

All I could envision was what I was lacking. The fact that my boys had to go from house to house. That I had to parent alone at the home but still somehow include their father in decision making.

I felt like my family was incomplete. Actually I didn’t even feel like a family.

At times the absence was so loud I couldn’t even recognize the truth. I had to turn my focus to Jesus. I had to remind myself of what He says about me.

God is the head of my household. He guides me. He provides for me. He loves me and my children more then I can even understand. And as long as I keep that in my mind I know that my family is complete. We are whole.

“The Lord is my Shepard, I lack nothing.” – Psalm 23:1

I lack nothing in Jesus.

Whether I have a husband or not. Whether my boys see their father once a week or once a year. They lack Nothing in Jesus. And I will always remind them of that. I will live my life knowing that we are a whole family so that they don’t feel otherwise.

Sure my family looks different then what I imagined for my life. But that’s all it is – different. Not worse. Not sadder. Not lacking.

You lack nothing in Jesus. Single. Married. Divorced. Widowed. God is the head of your family. You are whole!

xxoo, Monica

If this sweet woman’s post resonated with your heart, please know that you are not alone. Here are a few resources for you:

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If in a difficult marriage:
Surviving in a Difficult Christian Marriage is available as a PDF/e-book:

If separated/divorced:
Unraveling: Hanging onto Faith through the End of a Christian Marriage is available in paperback/e-book:

If a single mom:
Moving on as a Christian Single Mom is available as a PDF/e-book:

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