Sweet Tall-Shadow had the fun idea of polling single women (and then I added on the men!) to find out what they are looking for in a future marriage partner.
I’m grateful to all who took the brief survey, and thought I’d share what was discovered, so if you are out there in the dating world, you can see what the opposite sex is truly hoping to find.
(A quick disclaimer: there were at least another ten or so traits I wanted to add, but I needed to keep the question manageable. Hope you understand!)
What men are looking for in their future wives:
- Godly
- Trustworthy
- Attractive
- Kind
- Servant-hearted
- Humble
- Good conversationalist
- Dependable
- Cheerful
- Adventurous
- Funny
- Sensitive
- Generous
- Hard-working
- Agreeable
What women are looking for in their future husbands:
- Godly
- Trustworthy
- Dependable
- Kind
- Servant-hearted
- Hard-working
- Humble
- Funny
- Good conversationalist
- Sensitive
- Generous
- Cheerful
- Attractive
- Agreeable
- Adventurous
(Author’s note: One can’t help but notice that men rate attractiveness at #3 and women rate attractiveness at #13. I’m sorry, girls, but I kinda think you’re blowing smoke. But I still love you!)
Regardless, happy searching, sweet ones!
Before you start dating, heal up first! Unraveling: Hanging onto Faith through the End of a Christian Marriage can help.
Men aren’t really attractive without the other traits now, are they? Once burned, twice shy. Looks never make up for the lack of character and godliness. Just sayin’!
I gotta agree with Kim. The beauty inside a kind hearted man goes a LONG way. And once you experience REAL love… As they say- “Love is blind”.
I completely agree also!! I may have ranked “attractiveness” when I was younger a lot higher, but after having gone through a “hard” marriage & divorce….. being married to someone “attractive” means nothing now!! I would much rather have a man who has integrity & honor. Loves God and loves me with all his heart!
I respectfully disagree. I am not a shallow person and I still think that you can find the sweetest, funniest, most honest guy in the world but if you do not find him attractive, it might not matter. Don’t get me wrong, all the other traits are super important but being attracted to somebody is important also.
Honestly, I’m at the point – even after all of this time, where I doubt I’ll ever find men attractive. I don’t trust a word that comes out of their mouths. It will be a long time, if ever before the words of any man are words I will believe. If someone I was married to for over 23 years can lie to me for YEARS….well, so much for believablity. Pray that this wound will eventually heal. Men, who the crap need ’em?
Although attractiveness would of been a bit higher on the scale for me, the other things are a bigger issue. When I met my now husband on line, he didn’t even have a picture posted and he said I was the only one that didn’t ask for a picture, but his description of himself was ‘easy on the eye’ so I wasn’t too worried, as someone who didn’t think he was a little bit attractive wouldn’t of said this :). I think we communicated for about 2 weeks (it was kind of a fun game as he would send me pictures of his feet….lol) before I did get a picture and yes I thought he was handsome…..and still do :). But when I set out on this journey of on line dating it wasn’t the most important thing on my list that is for sure. For those of you out there that feel like it will never happen…..just do what you can do and leave the rest to God…..He knows our hearts, our desires and us so well that He will make the best choice for you 🙂