I gathered from the level of interest my upcoming date was getting on my Facebook writer page that people would like to hear how the date ended up going.
What I wasn’t expecting was that I’d be misconstrued a bit.
I am not saying that every one of you should have hope that you will find a good man because I found a good man to take me out on one date.
Because I don’t know if there’ll be a second date.
And, as someone pointed out, he could be faking it. (Just as we as women can be manipulative game-players as well.)
But mostly because I do not know your relational fate. I don’t even know my relational fate, so how can I know yours?
All I was trying to get across is that, sweet girls who have been hurt by a man (or more than one), there are good men in the world. There are.
You can have hope in that.
However, your true and only Hope should be found in Christ alone to carry you through whatever sweeps into your life. Your hope should not be pinned on finding a man.
But you may not, even if it’s what you desperately want.
I very well may not, even though I yearn for partnership and covering.
So because we do not know what tomorrow will bring in any area of our lives, including love, we walk…we wait…we pray…we can dream a bit…but where we place our Hope is in God, the only sure thing.
May your unfailing love be with us, Lord, even as we put our hope in you. –Psalm 33:2-
If this post encouraged you, you would benefit from “Unraveling: Hanging onto Faith through the End of a Christian Marriage”, found here or “Living through Divorce as a Christian Woman”, found here.
Nicely said. And nice to know there are good men out there.
May your unfailing love be with us, Lord, even as we put our hope in you. –Psalm 33:2- – AMEN!!!
And until we find our completion in Christ alone, we don’t need to be with a man anyway? Why should he “settle” just because we choose too? Just sayin’!
Good, honest thoughts here!
Hi Elisabeth! I’ve been a reader of your blog for a little while – and I can’t thank you enough for your encouragement that you give! I went through a devastating divorce, became a single mom of three little boys, and eventually remarried! I love keeping up with your story – and I am excited to read more. 🙂 Whether or not this date goes any further – I know the feeling all too well of how complex (exciting, scary, all the feelings) it is to go on that first date. I’m actually sharing my story on my blog in case you are ever interested. 🙂 http://justoneoftheboys.com/our-story/
I KNOW there are good men out there because God gave one to me!! Beauty from ashes….not to say that we all have to be careful in not choosing the same that we did the first time!! God gave me a man that loves Him and had been through almost the same thing as I went through (verbal, emotional and mental abuse) and now we are able to be thankful everyday for “normalcy” and what God intended marriage to be….one year and counting 🙂
Yes. Bless God Almighty there are indeed good men out there and I am trusting Him that mine will come at the right time.
I want to send up a heartfelt prayer for you also, Elisabeth, that God will graciously bless you with the man of your heart. I understand and– agree! — that He is our Everything, but my hopeless romantic heart is a hopeless believer in second chances 🙂