So, if you follow me on Facebook, you’ll know that I went on my first first-date in twenty-three years last weekend. Umm, this was no small thing.
I will not go into the details of how we met, how long we’ve known each other, or if there’s another date coming. Because what I want to share is not about any of that.
It’s about hope.
Here are a few things he said to me…
Pre-date: regarding my 23-year dating drought about to end, “I can’t believe I get to be the one.” #swoon
During date: to the waitress, “This is a famous author.” Me, shaking my head no. Him, taking out his phone and pulling up my Amazon page to show her. #treatsmelikeimabigdeal (#imnot)
Post-date: “You’ve got a lot of rewiring to do in your brain. You lack nothing as far as attracting a man is concerned.” #buildsmeup
Good, good words. There were others but those are between us.
So that is why this is about hope. Because I need each one of you single women in the world to know this: there are good, good men out there. They will say good, good words. They love God and will treat you with kindness and tenderness and respect and they will listen to you and open car doors and won’t argue with you and will want you to be you.
So don’t settle. Keep praying. Keep walking with Jesus. Keep allowing God to help you become the woman he wants you to be. There’s hope.
And if you’re lucky, you might even get to drive some man’s convertible someday.
So, I’m glad you’ve got hope. I’m glad you had a good experience. But there are many of us who don’t have your physical allure. Help us focus on hope not based on how attractive we are to a man.
Way to go, Elizabeth! And to the others – yes, keep hoping! Whatever your future holds (whether a man is involved or not) it can be rich, full, beautiful and lived along companions that accept and encourage us. Living in relationship with others, out of the isolation and pain of a difficult marriage, is hope and life and a gift for each of us!
PS, Amy, I have no doubt that you are darling in every way – make the best of what you’ve got physically, intellectually, socially and you will find others who appreciate each part of you. My now-husband actually LIKES the pooch at the top of pantyhose where I feel the “sausage-squeeze.” What I find a bit disgusting, he finds feminine and alluring. He just likes every way that a woman is different from a man. I’m sure there are others like him!
I had a date too. I am just amazed that their are good men out there. It was a night to enjoy myself. I am glad you had one of those too.
And I am not as ‘physically alluring” either.
Good for you Elisabeth! My favorite tidbit of hope you shared: “… (he) will want you to be you.” Wow! So looking for that hope fulfilled!!
For all of us that continue to wait for companionship, we have the greatest relationship of all, Jesus. Is 54:5..right now, the only man for me, faithful to His Word, kind, loving, protector, defender, shield, etc….don’t get me wrong….I love men and I am open to God bringing a godly man into my life….but right now I can accomplish more for Christ by being single…
Jesus- the uncontested love of my life…….HOPE….for He will never leave me nor forsake me….:)
I need stories of hope, so thank you.
This is excellent news Beth! I am so happy for you and of course this brings me hope as well. As far as updates on the relationship, keep them coming, please.
Amen girl! I had my first date in 14 years on January 27 and we will be wed on June 13 when I will become a pastor’s wife… so much hope in my story as well… There ARE good men out there if we just wait on God’s timing and His ways. He is always faithful!!
“They will say good, good words. They love God and will treat you with kindness and tenderness and respect and they will listen to you and open car doors and won’t argue with you and will want you to be you”
Just saying…this made me cry! I hope to have that hope some day! Thanks for sharing! I love your ministry and faithfulness to God and to the hurting people in this world. Thank you again!!!
How did I miss this????? Exciting!
I’m not really holding onto hope…..but if the man you describe comes along..alleluia! I think its a bit harder when you are over 50. Hopefully its not because I am too picky.