But what we must remember is that God has given us free will. You can leave. But you have chosen to stay. And chosen is the operative word here.
Listen to what God says about your choices:
It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. –Galatians 5:1-
Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. –II Corinthians 3:17-
If you are walking with God, and you have sought wise counsel, and you have studied Scripture, and you have prayed about this, and you believe that for right now, though you can leave your marriage you are choosing to stay, then you are walking in freedom. Then you have made the choice.
Pray. Ask God to help you feel less trapped and more alive in your circumstances. Ask him to bring light and life to your weary bones, to bring hope to your earthly circumstances.
Shift perspective. Make a list of the all of the pros of staying, even if all you’re able to muster up is “it’s cheaper to stay”. Start with that. Maybe you’re able to continue being a stay-at-home mom if you stay a bit longer. Maybe your kids are so young that they have no idea what’s really going on and having their dad living with them for another year or so is what their hearts need. Maybe you have a character flaw that staying will work out of you more than walking away just yet ever could. I don’t know what your list is, but in every single circumstance we’re in, there is something we can be grateful for.
Just like you’re choosing to stay, you can choose how you look at your situation. Ask God to teach you right where you are, to give you the strength of your convictions, to give you joy in your choice. He will honor that.
If this post helped you, I would encourage you to check out “Surviving in a Difficult Christian Marriage”, found here.