When Someone Doesn’t Love You Back

Some people – no matter how much you love them and how much you pursue them or how much you apologize – will never love you back or will never give you what you wish they’d give you or will never forgive you. This is not your fault. And this is only sometimes their...

I Think My Husband Abuses Me. Now What?

Let’s say your husband hits you. Or pushes you. Or slaps you. Or let’s say he has never hit you. But he has forced you – forced you – to have sex when you said no. Or let’s say he hasn’t hit you and he hasn’t forced you to have sex. Let’s say it’s not that obvious....

Why Am I So Comfortable with Pain?

Let’s talk about pain. Think about a time when you’ve had a toothache. It’s the worst, right? I’ve even heard it said that “your toothache is the worst pain in the world” because it’s all you can think about and, frankly, because it's yours. Physical pain sets up camp...

Why Do I Mess Up So Much?

I have messed up a lot in my life. Like, a lot. Spiritually, relationally, vocationally, emotionally, maritally, parentally, financially, physically. Like, a lot a lot. I think more than the average human. Or at least so it feels. It feels that way for a couple...

Unhappy AND Hopeful

“I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.” -Agatha Christie I am a blessed woman. I am a grateful woman. I love...