#metoo

When everything blew up and the #metoo movement exploded last Fall, I watched as one Facebook and Twitter follower after another shared her stories of being abused or assaulted. I remember thinking, I’ve been through a lot, but thank you, God, I’ve never had to deal...

Dear Pastor Patterson…

I set out to write a post to/about this pastor who has done such damage to women, to Christians, to the holiness of marriage, to clergy. But then I realized I don’t think I have anything new to say that I haven’t already said. I have been ringing this bell for about...

I Think My Husband Abuses Me. Now What?

Let’s say your husband hits you. Or pushes you. Or slaps you. Or let’s say he has never hit you. But he has forced you – forced you – to have sex when you said no. Or let’s say he hasn’t hit you and he hasn’t forced you to have sex. Let’s say it’s not that obvious....

regrets

My divorce was final five years ago this past summer. As I recently prepared for mediation with my ex-husband, my feelings, my stress dreams, my anxiety, the ever-present pit in my stomach told me another tale. You’d think I was still mid-divorce if my body were...

Hurt People Hurt People

Some people have hurt me in my life. Some long ago. Some recent. Some repeated. Some just once. Here’s what I recently wrote in my journal: Holy Spirit, please soften my heart towards — and — and —. I am carrying anger, sadness and fear towards each...